How to Choose a Dating Site Profile Picture

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3Using Additional Photos

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In the world of online dating, a picture really is worth a thousand words. It can show if you're generally a happy person, what activities you like, and whether you have a quirky personality. You want your main photo to be flattering and clear, and you'll want to avoid things like using old or deceptive photos. Keep in mind, though, that you'll usually have more than one photo to show your personality, so don't put all your focus on the profile photo.

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Picking Your Main Photo

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   Let them see you. A profile picture's main purpose is to let potential matches see you. Because profile pictures tend to be small, you might want a picture of just your face or your shoulders and face. That way, they can see you easily without even clicking on your profile.

   • That means getting an up-close picture. Make sure you aren't wearing anything that blocks your face, such as sunglasses or a hat that casts a shadow.
   • If you need to, crop a photo so it shows just your upper body. Just make sure it's still clear after cropping.
   • Put your second strongest photo as your last photo, and put your weakest photos somewhere in the middle.
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   Have it show your personality. Personality is important in a profile picture. A goofy expression may show that you're fun-loving. However, you don't want to go overboard. Stick to something fairly straightforward but fun, so potential matches won't be instantly put off.

   • The background you choose can also contribute to the overall impression of your photo. For example, if you want to look smart, you might choose a photo in which you're standing in front of a bookcase or playing chess in the park.
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   Pick one where you look happy. Most people don't want to date a grump. If you look like a grump in your picture, that's likely going to turn people away. Make sure you are showing a full, genuine smile, and avoid professional headshots.
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   Clear it up. Fuzzy pictures will not get you anywhere. Make sure your photo is clear. Your potential dates want to see you in all your glory, not a blurry blob on a blurry background. If you don't have a clear picture, it may be time to take a new one.

   • You should also choose good lighting to highlight your best features. Try picking a photo taken in natural light.
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   Ask for help. You're not always the best judge of your photos. Sometimes, other people may be more adept at picking out the most attractive photo that also shows your personality. Poll a few friends to help you select one.
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Knowing What to Avoid

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   Skip deceptive photos. Yes, you may get more attention upfront if you post a picture that hides the weight you've gained. However, when you go on a date, you may end up in a tense situation if the other person feels deceived. Just be upfront with your picture, and you'll have a much happier time when you do get asked out.
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   Avoid old photos. Like intentionally deceptive photos, using old photos sets up an expectation that you won't be able to meet. That being said, using a photo from 5 years ago or so is probably fine, as long as you still look mostly the same. However, you don't want decades-old photos.
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   Don't add unlabelled group shots. While group shots can be good if you have other solo pictures, you don't want an unlabelled shot. Make sure you point out where you are in the shot, so the viewer doesn't have to spend time hunting you down.
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   Don't use photos with old flings. Photos with a group of friends is fine, but you don't want a photo with just one other person of the sex you're attracted to. That is off-putting to many people because they may think you're not over that relationship.
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Using Additional Photos

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   Show off your interests. A picture can do more than just show your appearance. You can also show off things you like to do. It gives the other person something to ask about, plus it makes you seem like you're active and living life to its fullest.

   • Just showcase whatever you like to do, whether you're making a souffle, playing a board game, or shooting hoops.
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   Change it up. You don't want every photo to be basically the same. Add a little spunk. Use photos taken from different angles or from a bit farther back. Try a shot taken in profile. Changing things up creates visual interest.
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   Include a photo with some other people. While you do want a good photo of you by yourself, it can help to include pictures of you with other people. That shows that you're social and have a good group of friends who support you.

   • Include photos with your friends, family, or even your pets.
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   Add a full-body shot. Let's face it, most people want to know what you look like before going on a date. That means what your whole body looks like, not just your face. Make sure to include a flattering shot that captures your whole self.
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  Should I smile in my profile picture?

  

  Suzanna Mathews
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  Suzanna Mathews is a Dating and Relationship Coach and the Founder of The Date Maven. With over a decade of experience, she specializes in creating mindset tools, social strategies, and digital strategies that help her clients elevate dating and deepen connections. Suzanna holds a BA in Communications from Bethel College, North Newton, and an MA in Theater and Dramatic Arts from Wichita State University.

  

  Suzanna Mathews

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  Most definitely. You want to use nice pictures that come across as warm and fun, so that people think they'd want to meet you.

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  How do I make my dating profile stand out?

  

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  Suzanna Mathews is a Dating and Relationship Coach and the Founder of The Date Maven. With over a decade of experience, she specializes in creating mindset tools, social strategies, and digital strategies that help her clients elevate dating and deepen connections. Suzanna holds a BA in Communications from Bethel College, North Newton, and an MA in Theater and Dramatic Arts from Wichita State University.

  

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  Remember to choose good pics that aren't really professional. Remember that your dating profile picture shouldn't be on the same style as your LinkedIn profile picture, for example.

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