How to Befriend Your Crush (for Girls)

Think the best way to get to know your crush is if you become friends? Well you've come to the right article. Want to become friends with your crush? Yeah, that's a good way to make it more serious.

Steps

You can't go home again, and scold yourself for not talking to them even though you said you would. Or even though you passed up the perfect opportunity just because you thought you were not good enough. Or because you thought that they probably wouldn't want to talk to you. You can't be nervous. Relax and trust your instincts. If someone came to talk to you, you would probably just flirt back.
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Just do it. The more you think about it, the less likely it will happen. Close your eyes, and breathe. After people start to look at you weird because you just did that; just go up to them. Just talk.
- Remember you are trying to get to know your crush, not trying to become their girlfriend yet.
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Saying negative things around anyone can make them associate you with negativity and that's bad. If you are at the point where you start to get mad at yourself because you don't think you're becoming his friend fast enough, you need to stop trying so hard. You'll be really surprised if you just calm down and take a step back.
Even a compliment is fine, guys like being complimented. So do girls. See? It's not a girl vs. guy thing; it's simply a human thing. Make it a point to talk to them everyday. You can't just talk to them one day, then skip the next. You need to make it gradual. So think of this conversation-thing as an engine when you start a car; once it's on... you keep it running.
With small talk comes follow-up conversation. Example: in class you spoke about the crazy teacher. Next day, or even later next class, you tell a story about the teacher. Or you make reference to them. This is also a great way to create inside jokes- which are ideal. Make sure that when you're talking to him you smile, and try to make it look like you really want to listen to them.
Once you talk to them on a daily basis and are perfectly comfortable around them, ask them to go somewhere. It could be anywhere, just the fact that you asked him will make him feel good. Again, this is not a girl vs. guy thing, this is simply human. Whether it's coffee, or McDonalds, just ask. But make sure you ask very chill-y. Very casual. E.g. Ha, speaking about obesity... I'm probably going to McDonald's after school with Michelle and Amanda, wanna come? If they agree then excellent! But if they don't, don't start hating, it's just going to McDonalds... right? That's the whole point, casual.
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Make sure to sit next to them in class. Or when you're talking, make sure you use "we". It'll develop an automatic friend-thing in their subconscious, and will make all of this easier. Tell jokes, don't hold back. Say whatever is on your mind; if it's funny... it's funny.
- Don't be too clingy and give them some space.
- Always remember to smile.
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Get to know them better. If they (ever) start talking about themself, or starts telling a story... that is you're definite cue to start asking questions about them. Puff them up a bit, then they'll really like you because you make them feel good.
- Whenever you think the time is right, ask for their phone number and call them.
- You can ask about homework, assignments, etc.
- Be yourself! It's better they know your true colors.
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Tips

Don't get crushed at the slightest things. Guys, especially, don't really notice small things.
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Don't be so serious, let go and treat them like they're already your friend.
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Remember that if you want it, you have to get it. It doesn't just magically happen, like when you envision you two laughing and flirting.
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