How to Become a Singer Even if Your Parents Don't Want You to

You love to sing and you’re good at it, too! You know this is what you want to do for the rest of your life, but maybe your parents don’t quite agree. Don’t abandon your dream just yet, though. There are lots of things you can do to become a singer on your own, like watching vocal lesson videos online, practicing, and posting your own songs on the Internet. Then, you can help your parents see that you’re determined and mature enough to follow your passion. Even if they still disapprove, you’ll have a good plan and the confidence to pursue your dreams no matter what.

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Practicing on Your Own

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Watch free vocal lessons online.^{[1]XExpert SourceTanisha Hall
Vocal CoachExpert Interview. 27 March 2020.} If your parents don’t want you to become a singer, chances are they won’t want to pay for singing lessons for you, either. Luckily, you can find lots of videos online with vocal tips, breathing exercises and warm-up routines to make you the best singer you can be. Search for “beginner voice lessons” and see what’s out there!^{[2]XResearch source}
- Don’t push yourself too hard! Some videos are of professional, adult singers who have been training their whole lives to hit high notes. Start with simple techniques and scales made specifically for beginners and work your way up.
- One simple exercise for relaxing your jaws and lips is to find a video of a droning tone, like a cello drone in D, and to sing a single syllable in unison with that drone for a full breath cycle. This will help you hear things that might be interfering with your sound.^{[3]XExpert SourceJonathan Stancato
  Voice CoachExpert Interview. 31 March 2020.}
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Take personal singing lessons.^{[4]XExpert SourceTanisha Hall
Vocal CoachExpert Interview. 27 March 2020.} Taking voice lessons in-person is the best option, since your teacher can help you with posture and other physical elements of singing. If your parents won’t let you sign up for in-person lessons, though, you can also enroll in live online lessons over videochat, so you can learn from a professional from the comfort of your own room.^{[5]XResearch source}
- In either case, you’ll have to pay for lessons. Make a bit of money by doing some chores around the house, like cleaning the bathroom or mowing the lawn. If you’re old enough, you could also get a part-time job at a local fast food restaurant or grocery store.
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Learn an instrument. Knowing how to play an instrument can really help with your dream to become a singer. Many famous singers play an instrument, like the guitar, bass guitar, or piano. Playing a woodwind instrument, like a flute or clarinet, can help you build stamina and strengthen your breathing. learning how to read music in general will help you a lot with your singing too. Your parents might be more willing to support your music dreams if you ask them about learning an instrument, especially if you can take classes through your school.^{[6]XResearch source}
- To really impress your parents, tell them some of the positives of playing an instrument. For example, say that playing music has been shown to make kids more responsible and help them with math, reading and comprehension.^{[7]XResearch source}
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Sing whenever you can. The best thing you can do if you want to be a singer is just sing! Belt out your favorite tunes in the shower, sing along to the radio in the car, or serenade your friends on their birthdays. The more you sing, the better you’ll become and the closer you’ll get to your dream of becoming a singer.
- The songs that seem to get stuck in your head over and over again can even clue you in to the genre of music or types of themes that might be good for you to explore.^{[8]XExpert SourceJonathan Stancato
  Voice CoachExpert Interview. 31 March 2020.}
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Take care of your voice. Drink lots of water and avoid spicy foods, which could make stomach acid move into the throat and give you heartburn. Exercise regularly, even if it’s just walking around the block a couple times a day, to increase your stamina and help your breathing.^{[9]XResearch source}
- Give yourself a couple rest days a week, and try not to sing if your voice is hurting. Even professional singers have rest days!
Write your own songs. Once you get the hang of singing other artists’ songs, try writing your own. Figure out a topic, like love, sorrow, or excitement, and start writing words and sentences that describe what you’re feeling. Throw in a couple rhymes! Hum along to the words and start finding a nice melody. It might be hard at first, but keep trying. You’ll get better with practice.^{[10]XResearch source}

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Sharing Your Singing

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Ask for feedback from your friends. If you know your friends support your dream, ask them to listen to you sing and tell you what they think. Ask them to be honest, but still nice! Chances are, they’ll be happy you asked them and excited to hear you practice your talent.
- If you think your friends might be mean or make fun of you, ask someone else, like a sibling or your favorite teacher. Or record yourself on a phone or tape recorder and listen to yourself without other people judging you.
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Join your school or church choir. You’ll be able to meet other people your age who love to sing too, and you can even get professional advice from the choir teacher or leader.^{[11]XExpert SourceTanisha Hall
Vocal CoachExpert Interview. 27 March 2020.} Plus, your parents might support your dream more if it gets you involved in and excited about school or church.^{[12]XResearch source}
- Tell your parents that that joining a choir is a great chance for you to make new friends and even get a great academic grade.
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Upload songs and videos online.^{[13]XExpert SourceTanisha Hall
Vocal CoachExpert Interview. 27 March 2020.} Tons of famous singers, like Justin Bieber and Ed Sheeran, started as kids who loved to sing just like you, and became successful by posting videos online. Start by finding songs you really love and practice singing them to yourself, then record them on a phone, computer, or even your parents’ old camera. You’ll start attracting viewers before you know it!^{[14]XResearch source}
- Use a popular video site, like YouTube. Watch other artists’ videos to get inspiration for how to stage and record your songs. Pretend you’re your favorite singer and really go for it!
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Discuss alternatives if your parents won’t let you post videos online. Ask what specifically bothers them about you posting videos to a site like YouTube. For example, are they worried that strangers could see it, or even criticize you? Ask if they’ll let you post audio clips on streaming services like Soundcloud instead. Strangers won’t be able to see you actually sing but you can still promote your songs online, even under a stage name if that makes them more comfortable.
- If your parents are really bothered by the thought of any of your songs being online, it’s probably best to listen to them. If you show that you’re willing to give up this idea, maybe they’ll be more willing to discuss other alternatives, like taking singing lessons or participating in a talent show.
- Even if you can’t promote yourself now, keep singing and practicing. When you’re older, you’ll eventually have the freedom to post as many videos as you want.
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Enter singing competitions to show your parents that you’re serious. If you’re a little nervous about performing in front of other people, start small. Sing in front of your friends or siblings, or try karaoke! Give it a shot at your school’s talent show and impress all your classmates with your amazing voice. Your parents will be impressed by your determination and passion, and may even support you.
- It’s okay if singing in front of other people feels a little scary at first. Even famous professional singers get stage fright. To beat your nerves, think positive thoughts about how well the performance will go and how much everyone will love it. Shake out your arms and legs and breathe deeply. You’re going to rock it!
- To overcome your nerves, try taking your worst fears of how something might sound and doing them intentionally. For instance, if you're afraid your voice will be too quiet, sing a version that's embarrassingly quiet. Giving voice (literally) to those fears allows them to become a source of play and imagination rather than something that's a real obstacle to your performance.^{[15]XExpert SourceJonathan Stancato
  Voice CoachExpert Interview. 31 March 2020.}

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Helping Your Parents Understand

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Listen to their concerns. Your parents are probably afraid that if you try to become a singer, you’ll have a hard time succeeding and making money in the music industry. Listen to their points quietly and tell them that you understand how they feel. You could even thank them for having your best interests at heart. They’ll be impressed with your maturity and more likely to listen to your ideas now that you’ve heard theirs.^{[16]XResearch source}
- Remember that your parents love you and want the best for you in life. They’re not trying to be mean--they’re just looking out for you.
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Explain to them that you’re serious about your dream. Tell them how much you’ve been practicing on your own and how you’ve been improving. Say, “I know I’m young right now, but I’ve found something I really love and that I want to do my whole life. It would mean so much to me if you supported me!”
- Try not to get to raise your voice or get too emotional. They’ll be more likely to listen to you and agree with your point of view if you stay calm and mature.
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Strike a compromise. Maybe your parents think you won’t focus as much on your grades if you take singing lessons, or that you’ll skip college to pursue your dream. Ask them what they’re specifically worried about and compromise.
- For example, you could promise to bring your math grade up if your parents let you take singing lessons. You could promise to go to college and double-major in music and something more practical. Your parents will be relieved that you have backup options and that you’re still committed to other parts of your life.
- If you make a promise, keep it! If you promised to get a good GPA in exchange for getting singing lessons but you don’t bring your grades up, your parents might take your voice lessons away.
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Continue without their support if you have to. If your parents become very angry or upset when you bring up your dream of singing, keep your plans to yourself. If you’re still living under your parents’ roof, you’ll have to go along with what they want, at least for now. Continue practicing on your own as much as you can. Tell yourself that this is actually good practice for you: you’ll probably face a lot of critics during your career as a singer.
- Keep your dream alive and don’t get discouraged! You won’t live with your parents forever. Eventually, you’ll be able to move out and follow your passion.

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What can I do to become a famous singer?
Tanisha Hall
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Tanisha Hall is a Vocal Coach and the Founder and Executive Director of White Hall Arts Academy, Inc. an organization based in Los Angeles, California that offers a multi-level curriculum focused on fundamental skills, technique, composition, theory, artistry, and performance at a conservatory level. Ms. Hall's current and previous students include Galimatias, Sanai Victoria, Ant Clemons, and Paloma Ford. She earned a BA in Music from the Berklee College of Music in 1998 and was a recipient of the Music Business Management Achievement Award.
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Start by looking for lessons online and in-person to help you train your voice. Try to join a local choir or look for singing opportunities in your area so you have chances to perform. You can even upload videos of you singing to social media to share with the rest of the world.
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I really want to be a singer/songwriter, but I'm way too shy to let my dreams be known to others. What should I do?
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Tell a trusted friend about your dreams. A good friend will support you. Once you tell one person, it will be easier to tell others.
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What if people make fun of me?
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Ignore them. There will always be those who criticize others; feel good about the fact that you're pursuing your goals.
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