How to Become Popular at a Gay Bar

Whether you are going to a gay bar alone or with friends, it's possible to be the most popular one there. This article will teach you how to act and dress in order to make the most out of your night out. Read on for more.

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Have fun!

A person who is confident attracts other confident people. The exact people who you want to become friends with to be popular at the bar. If you feel unsure and are not really that confident, fake it 'till you make it.
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2

Dress up.

Don't change your style or dress in something that makes you uncomfortable, just pump it up. Remember, if you're constantly worrying about what your wearing you won't have a good time.

3

Talk to the employees.

Chat them up about anything, your best bet is complimenting them on their hair or clothes. The main reason behind this that these are the people who see everything at the bar and know everyone. It also makes you more confident walking in knowing that you have a report with someone there. Bartenders are also a good. Try to order the same thing all night, they will recognize you from that repetitive behaviour.
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4

Dance!

Get up there and show your stuff. Just don't stand in the corner of the dance floor looking like you dread the thought of shaking your booty.

5

Bring a friend.

If your friend has been to the bar before they can introduce you to people they know, boosting your visibility. Just don't go to the bar with 10 or 20 of your friends, you will fade into the background of everyone around you. One or two friends is best, as generally if you come in a group you stay in a group the whole night. Meet everyone at the bar if you want your friends to come, it will break up the pack mentality.
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6

Go to a drag show.

If the bar has a resident Drag Queen she will most likely be hosting the night, after the show go up and introduce yourself while telling her that you liked the show. Be careful though most Queens have claws. Don't hang her the whole night, say you liked the show, maybe buy her a drink and then leave and do your own thing.

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Talk to everyone.

This is great way to make friends and maybe even get a drink or two. Don’t worry about anyones gender or sexual orientation, simply talk to someone. Remember to smile and be kind.
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Can I go to a gay bar if I'm straight?
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Of course. Though you should prepare yourself for the fact that people might assume you're gay and might even express romantic or sexual interest in you. If you can't handle that politely, then don't go. Also, it is considered rude to bring a large group of straight people to a gay bar/club (i.e. a bachelorette party), so if you're going, you should ideally go with some gay friends.
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How can I get into a gay bar if I am under 21?
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The only way you could do this would be to use a fake ID, which is not recommended.
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How can I get into a gay bar when I'm 21?
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Simply show your ID. Since you're 21, you should have an easy time getting into the bar.
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If you're straight and you're worried that you are getting hit on, just tell the person politely that you are, in fact, straight but don't let that end the conversation, keep talking about something else.
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Go as often as possible.
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Smile! It's the best way to get people to let their guard down and start to talk to you.
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Warnings

Drugs can feature in the gay club scene, but doing drugs does not make you popular and may even isolate you or get you barred.
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