How to Be the Sweet and Innocent Kind of Popular Girl

Every school has one. That girl who is so sweet and kind, but rules the school. Want to be one? There are plenty of perks to being the sweet and innocent one in your popular clique - you're less involved in fights and dirty work. You can be one too, with the help of this article.

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Looking and Feeling Your Best

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Sleep and eat well. Being well rested and well fed will help you look and feel your best. Taking good care of your body is important for staying in a good mood, and feeling good about yourself.
- Most young people need 8-10 hours of sleep. Go to bed early. Turn off your devices before bed, or if you aren't willing to, install a blue light filter.
- Fill about 1/3 of your plate with fruits and vegetables for better health.
- Snack mindfully. Look for healthy snacks.
- Eat when you're hungry, and stay away from fad diets. Yo-yo dieting can harm your metabolism and your health. Instead, find ways to integrate healthy food into your diet, and eat until you're full.
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Practice good hygiene. Staying clean will help you look and feel your best. Wash your hands, face, and body well.
- Shower every day. If you've hit puberty, make sure to wash your face with facial soap and/or use face wipes each day.
- Wear deodorant. If one type doesn't work, try another. (For example, if stick deodorant doesn't help, try gel deodorant.)
- Brush your teeth well, moving the toothbrush in firm circles. Use gum and breath mints if you struggle with bad breath. Try to get in the habit of flossing too.
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Choose clothes that help you feel happy and confident. There's no single type of style that you need to be sweet and innocent. Some innocent girls lean towards a feminine and modest style, but not all of them do. If this isn't what you like, don't worry! Instead, find clothes that make you smile. You look best in clothes that help you feel your best.
- Wear your favorite colors.
- Consider different clothing styles (girly, tomboyish, lacy, goth, etc.) and figure out what's most interesting to you.
- If something is itchy, ill-fitting, or too revealing for your comfort level, then don't wear it. Your clothes should make you happy, not make you feel awkward or like you need to constantly adjust them.
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Consider studying fashion advice a little to give yourself an extra style boost. If you feel like it, you can learn some tips to enhance your best features.
- Figure out what your body type is: pear, ruler, apple, triangle, or hourglass. Learn how to dress to show off your body type.
- Figure out what "season" your coloring is. Dress in colors that flatter your hair and skin tone.
- Wearing a mix of loose and tight clothes (e.g. a fitted shirt and loose cardigan) is often considered trendy.
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Take breaks from things when you need to. You can't pour from an empty cup, and you can't help others effectively if you're feeling miserable or exhausted. If you're feeling down, step back and ask yourself "What do I need right now?" Whether you need a hug, some quiet time with a book, or time with your best friend, see if you can get it.
- If you're feeling burned out, don't keep pushing yourself. Take a break. If people ask, explain that you're worn out and you need to rest.
- Don't say "yes" to something if your heart is really saying "no." It's okay to say "I can't help you this time" or "I already have plans" (even if those plans are hanging out in your pajamas). Helping or spending time with people is a choice, not an obligation, and you should say no if it would make you feel exhausted or too stressed.
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Being Innocent

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See the best in everyone. Refuse to believe in rumors or stereotypes. Instead, start off being kind and respectful to everyone. Assume that they are a good person, until they give you clear evidence to the contrary.
- Be open-minded to LGBT+ people, people of color, religious minorities, disabled people, and other minorities. Show them kindness and acceptance.
- Stay reasonable. If someone puts you in danger, hurts your feelings on purpose, or otherwise mistreats you, don't ignore this. Accidents happen, but if someone has a pattern or acts reckless, then you should protect yourself.
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Work on being optimistic. Do your best to see the best in each day and each situation. Look for the positive side.
- Try keeping a gratitude journal, and writing down 3 good things that happened at the end of each day.
- Of course, you're still allowed to be upset sometimes. No one is constantly happy. Instead of hiding your feelings, talk to someone you trust about how you feel.
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Keep your language clean, if you prefer. Avoid swearing, making innuendo, and calling names. This can help you get a more innocent reputation.
- Stay away from "adult" media. If someone offers (e.g. asking if you want to see an R-rated movie), politely say "That's not my thing" or "I get scared too easily! I think I'll sit this one out."
- Don't play language police with people who casually swear, though. Many people use strong language from time to time nowadays and they don't like attempts to control that. If they aren't calling you names or acting intimidating, then it's usually best to respect their choice of language.
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Express your feelings in a straightforward, non-accusatory way. Make "I" statements to explain how you feel. For example, instead of saying "You're annoying," say "I'm so frustrated!" Here are some more examples:
- "I'm really sad today because my dog is sick."
- "I get scared of violent movies. Could we watch something different, that we could both enjoy?"
- "That door slamming really startled me."
- "I'm really excited right now! My crush just asked me out!"
- "Talking about medical things makes me queasy. Could you save it for a time when I'm not around, or should I duck out for a moment?"
Tip: Innocent people don't usually jump to blaming or negatively labeling other people. Instead, they explain what happened and talk about how they feel. For example, instead of "she is an evil bully," you might say, "she calls me names and she ripped up my homework yesterday before I could turn it in, and I get a stomachache just thinking about spending time with her."
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Stay out of trouble. Never cheat, plagiarize, or get involved in drinking or drugs. Avoid doing anything that breaks rules, at school or at home. Most rules exist for a very good reason: to keep things safe and fair.
- If someone tries to get you to cheat, say "I'm not comfortable with that." Repeat it if they try to keep pressuring you.
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Do your best. Work hard in school, raise your hand, and get the best grades you can. Also work hard in your extracurricular activities and hobbies. Put in the best effort you can reasonably manage, and then let yourself be pleased with it.
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Don't let your innocence interfere with your smarts, or your kindness. It's okay to be innocence, but you also don't want to be foolish or judgmental. Balance your innocence with a good head and a good heart.
- Stay clever. If someone mistreats you repeatedly, or gives you a really bad feeling, then listen to your doubts. You don't want anyone to take advantage of you. Ask a trusted adult for help if you're not sure what to do.
- Stay positive. Avoid looking down on people who swear, watch scary movies, dress immodestly, or do more "adult" activities than you do. Being judgmental isn't sweet at all. Respect their choices, and acknowledge that just because it isn't for you doesn't mean that no one should do it.
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Being Sweet

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Make the kindest choice. Whenever you're in a difficult situation, ask yourself "What would be the nicest thing to do?" Then, if you're able to, do it. While you won't always be perfect, consistently making an effort to be nice is what counts.
- Remember to be kind to yourself, too. That means sticking to your principles and refusing to be a doormat if you feel like someone might take advantage of you or hurt you.
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Give people compliments. When you think a nice thought about someone, try to say it out loud. Hearing a compliment or two can cheer people up, and make them feel better about themselves.
- Don't give compliments if you don't mean them. They only count if you mean them.
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Treat people well, no matter who they are. From your best friend to your annoying sibling to the noisy kid in class, everyone deserves basic respect. Do your best to treat them politely, even if they're bothering you.
- Remember that "weird" people are people too. They should get to be themselves as long as they aren't hurting anyone.
- Speak politely and respectfully even when they aren't doing the same in return.
- Don't call them names or put them down, even if you don't understand them or don't like their behavior.
- You don't have to be a doormat. Politely say "You're bothering me" or "Please stop" if they're crossing a boundary. If that doesn't work, ask an adult for help.
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Offer help to people. Whether they're folding laundry by themselves or handling a difficult friendship problem, ask if they would like some help. If you aren't sure if you can help, try asking "What would make this easier for you?" and then letting them figure it out out loud. Whether they end up wanting help or not, it can be nice for them to know you're there for them.
- Sometimes people want to talk about it, and other times they want to take their mind off of it. If you're not sure, ask: "Would you prefer to talk, or be distracted for a while?"
- Don't push your help on someone who doesn't want it. That's not sweet at all.
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Be affectionate to people who appreciate it. If you're comfortable doing so, try giving hugs and affection to people you care about. Affection can bring you closer to people, and make them smile.
- Never force affection on someone who isn't comfortable! If you're not sure, try asking (like "Would you like a hug?"), and avoid pressuring them.
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Listen to people, and validate their feelings. People love to feel heard and understood. Focus on them, let them speak without interrupting them, and help them feel like it's okay to feel the way they do. Here are some examples of validating things to say:
- "I'm sorry to hear that."
- "Wow, you sound so excited!"
- "It's understandable that you're frustrated. You're in a difficult situation."
- "That sounds rough."
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Learn how to manage conflict gracefully. A sweet girl is assertive, and she works on avoiding or defusing arguments. Here are some things you can say if someone is getting confrontational with you:
- "That's interesting. Anyhow, I heard the weather is going to get colder this weekend."
- "I'm sorry to hear that you feel that way."
- "I'll get back to you on that."
- "Maybe we should discuss this when we're both calmer."
- "I need to get some air. See you later."
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Keep practicing kindness. Kindness is a habit, and you get better at it the more you do it. Don't beat yourself up too much if you make a mistake. Keep doing your best, and treating other people well. You're defined by your habits, not your mistakes.
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Be confident. Confidence helps you act like your best self.
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Be really nice to everyone.
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You don't need to give everyone advice. Sometimes they need to vent.
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Warnings

Remember to stay reasonable. It's not right to burn yourself out, or let people take advantage of you, because you want them to think you're helpful and kind. Stand up for yourself, or keep your distance, if someone isn't treating you respectfully.
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Avoid trying to change who you are. If you pretend to be someone you're not (like pretending to be shy when you're more comfortable being bold), people might notice and think something is wrong. Instead, work on being sweet the way you are.
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