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The definition of a good mother varies depending on who you ask. However, most people agree that the most important thing is to love your children and make sure they feel loved. There aren’t any set rules for how to be a mom, but there are some guidelines you can use to parent your children in a loving way.
Here are 13 ways you can be a more supportive, loving mother.
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- Don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Having a support system is really important, especially right after you bring your baby home.[11]Thanks
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- Prioritize your mental health with counseling or self-care. Children need whole, healthy parents. Don't compare yourself unfairly or dwell on past mistakes — simply focus on personal growth so you can nurture theirs.
- Schedule regular bonding nights tailored to each child's interests, like crafts, sports or baking. These special memories mean more than material gifts. And don't overlook spending one-on-one time with each child.
- Let natural consequences do the teaching if kids shirk responsibilities. Nagging often backfires. If a child leaves homework undone to watch TV, receiving a poor grade may motivate better choices down the road.
- Before assigning new chores, consider their current workload — school, activities, jobs. Overburdening risks resentment. Fairness matters tremendously to kids. Lighten their load if it seems excessive.
- Listen more than you speak. Ask about their views instead of imposing yours. Shared dialogue builds mutual understanding and respect. This cement the foundation of your lifelong bond.
- Laugh with your kids, not at them. Mistakes happen to everyone, but ridicule hurts deeply and strains trust. React gently and transform failures into lessons learned instead.
References
- ↑ https://www.apa.org/monitor/2012/10/parenting
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/singletons/201510/how-support-and-nurture-your-childs-passions
- ↑ https://kidshealth.org/en/parents/nine-steps.html
- ↑ https://kidshealth.org/en/parents/nine-steps.html
- ↑ https://kidshealth.org/en/parents/nine-steps.html
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-health/improving-family-relationships-with-emotional-intelligence.htm
- ↑ Lisa Greaves Taylor, CCCE, LCCE, CD (DONA). Certified Doula & Childbirth Educator. Expert Interview. 25 August 2020.
- ↑ https://breakthesilencedv.org/how-to-model-healthy-relationships-for-your-children/
- ↑ https://www.healthychildren.org/English/family-life/family-dynamics/Pages/How-Taking-Care-of-Yourself-Makes-you-a-Better-Mom.aspx
- ↑ https://raisingchildren.net.au/guides/first-1000-days/looking-after-yourself/stress-grown-ups
- ↑ Lisa Greaves Taylor, CCCE, LCCE, CD (DONA). Certified Doula & Childbirth Educator. Expert Interview. 25 August 2020.
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To be a good mother, try to set clear, firm rules and be consistent with your consequences. For example, if your child pushes their sibling, give them the same punishment every time, like 5 minute time-out, so they know learn that breaking rules is a bad thing. Besides teaching good behavior, you can be a good mother by showing your love and support! You can ask your kids about their interests to show you care. Additionally, make sure to attend their games and performances, which will show your kids how proud you are. To learn how to split responsibilities with your partner to give yourself time to recharge, read more from our Counselor co-author!
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