How to Act Mysteriously

As a general rule, staying quiet and being discreet is a good way to create an air of mystery around you. Limit your socializing and be unpredictable in your style and conduct. Staying confident and low key will make you intriguing to people keep you on their minds.

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Staying Quiet

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Speak less than others. Being quiet will create an air of mystery around you. Avoid talking about yourself or jumping into discussions without being prompted to. Saying less will increase other people’s curiosity about you.^{[1]XResearch source}
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Provide limited answers to questions. When people outside of your core group of friends ask questions about you, give them short answers with little to no details. Do not avoid answering entirely, which will seem rude rather than mysterious. If you don’t want to answer a question, offer another question in response.^{[2]XResearch source}
- For instance, respond to the question, “Are you single?” by simply saying “No.”
- If you do not wish to answer, ask a question like, “Why do you want to know?”
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Be discrete about your personal life. Being mysterious is not about abandoning who you are, it is about being discrete in whatever you do. Do not share details or photos about your personal life on social media, or at work or school. Avoid discussions about things like weekend plans, family life, hobbies, religious beliefs, and political beliefs.^{[3]XResearch source}
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Smile discreetly instead of laughing at funny things. The things we laugh at reveal a lot about our personality. When something funny happens, make a conscious effort to avoid laughing. Instead, acknowledge the humor with a modest, closed-mouth smile.^{[4]XResearch source}
- To keep from laughing, close your eyes and breathe deeply. Think about things that make you feel serious.
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Keep your composure when something upsetting happens. Strong emotional reactions are a sign of vulnerability and honesty, and are not conducive to looking mysterious. If a situation upsets you, step away to be alone while you process it. If you are around other people, do your best to remain calm and control any outbursts or outward displays of your feelings.^{[5]XResearch source}
- For instance, if your co-worker confronts you with a complaint, stay calm and respond in a neutral, unemotional manner. After the interaction, go someplace private to deal with your emotions, if necessary.
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Be cool about romantic relationships. If you are in a relationship or experiencing romantic feelings, keep it to yourself or downplay the intensity of it. Do not advertise your relationship status on social media or in social settings like work or parties. Make people outside of your core group of friends wonder about your love life without giving them any details about it.^{[6]XResearch source}
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Socializing in Small Doses

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Don't stay too long at social gatherings. Spending long periods of time at social gatherings will inevitably lead to revealing conversations, which will work against your mysterious image. Make limited appearances at parties or other events so you can stay on people’s radar and still avoid revealing too much about yourself. Arrive fashionably late and sneak out early whenever possible to seem aloof.[^{[7]XResearch source}
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Avoid joining too many clubs, teams, or committees. Being mysterious means being unique and okay with being on your own. To maintain this air, avoid joining any group activities like sports teams, social committees, or common interest-based clubs that you are not completely passionate about. Aligning yourself with any such organizations will indicate conformity and a desire to be accepted, which is not mysterious.^{[8]XResearch source}
- Don't worry about whether the group you want to join is cool or not. Taking part in activities that people may consider weird and not caring what anyone thinks will make you more intriguing,
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Be strategically absent from certain events. Pick and choose what events you attend to make people wonder when or if you will show up. This will make your presence more intriguing when you do show up, and make people think about you when you are not there. Take these opportunities to rest, relax, and treat yourself.^{[9]XResearch source}
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Stay close to a few select friends that you can trust. While seeming mysterious to the world at large may get you attention, it is important to have people in your life that you can be yourself around. Choose friend that you can trust to keep your secrets, stay loyal, and be there for you when you need them. Stay away from friends who bounce between social groups regularly, are competitive, speak to you negatively, or like to gossip.^{[10]XResearch source}
- Having a small, tight-knit group of friends who are discreet and loyal will only add to your mysterious image.
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Make yourself unavailable without explaining why. In order to maintain a mysterious air, avoid being overly available for social gatherings. Turn down some invitations without giving any details about why or what else you may be doing. Curiosity about these unanswered questions will make people think about you and ponder your whereabouts.^{[11]XResearch source}
- If someone asks you to a party, respond by saying something like, "I'm afraid I won't be able to make it. Maybe some other time."
- If anyone asks for details about why you can't make it, say something like, "I have another engagement that I simply can't miss."
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Looking Mysterious

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Dress differently than other people. Shop for clothing in thrift shops or online to get things that you really like that no one in your area is likely to have. Wearing unique clothing will leave people wondering where you shop and what kind of brands or designers you like. Opt to wear eclectic patterns and dark colors, which will give a greater air of mystery to your look.^{[12]XResearch source}
- Always go for clothing that reflects your personality and makes you feel comfortable, since being at ease is an important part of your mysterious look.
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Change up your look. A big part of acting mysteriously is being unpredictable, bold, and confident. Wear different styles of clothing every few days so that people will have a difficult time categorizing your style. Wear outfits that range anywhere from conservative to flashy, masculine to feminine, or sporty to glamorous.^{[13]XResearch source}
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Use filters and blurring to take mysterious photos. Whether you take selfies or photograph things that interest you, your photos reveal a lot about you. Create a mysterious vibe by adding dark or cloudy filters to your photos to make them look darker. Blur your images with filters or photo editing apps to make them more obscure-looking.^{[14]XResearch source}
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Wear sunglasses whenever possible. Whenever you are outdoors during the day, make a point of wearing sunglasses. Keeping your eyes covered will make it more difficult for people to read your emotions or reactions. Whenever you come inside a building from outdoors, wait as long as possible to take off your sunglasses.^{[15]XResearch source}
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Keep a half-smile on your face. A half-smile is the perfect mysterious facial expression because it allows you to conceal your emotions without looking unpleasant or unhappy. Keep your lips closed and curve your mouth slightly upward without breaking into a full grin. A half-smile is ambiguous enough to leave people wondering how you are thinking and feeling.
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If I think everyone knows almost everything about me,because of my too much talking. Is it possible for me still become a mysterious person again for everyone including friends?
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Yes. Reinventing your style from time to time and getting involved with new friends or activities is a good way to create some mystery around you.
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Keep a tight-knit group of friends that you trust and avoid socializing with too many different people. Have a unique style and don't change to fit in. Participate only in groups and teams that you really feel passionate about, and be discreet about your personal relationships.
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I want to make people laugh. But how can I do this if I act like mysterious?
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Aim to have a dry sense of humor. Stay away from physical comedy and avoid laughing at your own jokes.
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